Hi i'm chanelle and i need advice BAD!!! Okay well first off i am a dancer and all the people i am taking about are dancers as well...just to let you know. Okay, what do you do if the person you love is someone your friends, and family won't ever let you have. I mean i used to see him as a friend when we were little. Sometimes i even didn't like him. But then it seemed like he would flirt with me, so i flirted back. I never really  put into thought that he might really like me, so i flirted with him to make my friend jealous. But....after telling me i looked good in whatever i was wearing, giving me hugs, playing with my hair, laughing with him all the time, and hanging out at his house with other friends for parties...i started to fall in love with him. Even though he is a year younger than me. I got to the point where i just liked being around him. But then i started to feel like even though i loved him, i couldn't because it could never be. Although i toned it down, i never really diminished the relationship. But then to my horror, he fell for a really beautiful rich girl, that dances with us and is amazing( she even looks a little like me). Now when me or my friends are around him when SHE is around...he acts kind of mean to us. THEN when went to a show together we flirted a little,and i felt really bad. I felt terible for leading him on, and then leaving him hanging, and now wanting him back. I love him sooo much, but i can't compete with the girl he loves. Sorry this is sooooooo long....but HOW can i get him back, or make him love me again.Comment back on my site LFF_in_the_town. Please get back to me soon!LFF_in_the_town
im so sorry, but i think he moved on... you didnt take your chance with him, so he likes her now... but i think there's hope, i think he still likes you a little... dont get in the way between him and the girl though... with kindness i think you can fix your friendship with him though =] and maybe if he gets over the other girl maybe you can get together, maybe... :http://www.myjellybean.com/dating/loveback.html ... im sorry if it seems negative but theres always a chance... =]

i like this boy. i'm gonna call him cody, cause i like that name. but thats not his really name haha. so anyways, cody is my cousin's neighbor/friend. my cousin is a senior, and cody's a freshman. i'm a freshman too. so i'll start from the beginning.. cody and i met one time in like 5th grade or something like that haha. so yea, at that time, i wasnt really interested in boys, but i could tell when a boy was staring at me and stuff. so one time, i was over my cousins house, and my cousin, my brother, and i went over this kid cody's house. i didnt really know where we were going, and i didnt really care haha. so when we got there, cody was there. the whole time i was over his house, we were like staring at eachother. that was like the first time that ever really happened to me. so.. like for the next 4 years, i never saw him again, but my cousin always talked about him, and my cousin and my brother always said that he liked me. so, this year, i was looking at my cousin's myspace, and i realized cody was one of my cousin's friends. so i looked on his myspace, and got his screen name off of it. so then i IMed him, and we started talking. then, the next day, my cousin came over just to chill, and cody IMed me. then my cousin found out that i was talking to him, and he came in my room, and started talking to him on my screen name. and again, my cousin said that he likes me, and that he thinks i like him. so then, the next weekend, there was a superbowl party at my cousin's house. so i went, and guess who was there. cody. so for the first time in 4 years, i saw him. it was really amazing. haha it took my breath away. so we talked, and flirted a little. then, the next few weeks, we talked online a lot, and i really started to like him. so then, my friend came over one night, and she started talking to him on her screen name, and she was annoying him, just cause it was funny. so he IMed me, and asked if i knew who she was, and i said no. then he said he had to go, and signed off. the next day, my other friend (who had his screen name on her buddy list) asked if i was talking to him, and i said no, cause he wasnt on. then she said he was. so in conclusion, he blocked me. so then i was like all depressed and confused. cause i didnt know if he meant to, or if he did. so then, i waited like a month, but then i finally IMed my cousin, and asked him if he knew if cody blocked me. my cousin said he didnt know, but then that same day, cody came online for the first time in like a month. so he did block me, cause my cousin told him to unblock me probably. so i IMed him, and i was like.. "thanks for blocking me", and he was like.. "i didnt block you, i was transitioning computers, dumbass". thats a lie. cause i know he did. i still dont know what happened, but at least i have the ability to talk to him. i havent IMed him since, and he hasnt IMed me, so i dont know what happened. wow that was long. haha thanks for listening to my story. so you can give me some advice, if you can think of any haha. quotes_are_hottx3
hm, boys are weird. you know what i think? i think he thinks that it was you on the other sn! or he thinks your lying about if you know them or not... whatever it is, he's kinda angry at you. you should explain to him that it was your friend im-ing him and tell him that you are upset that he wont talk to you. if he continues it, maybe say you apologize for whatever you did sincerly? =]

Loving the site. But coudl you please Please help me! OK, What do you do when the person you actually are (inside) is very similar to another person? I try being myself, but since "myself" is very similar to another person, people think I'm just a wannabe. I'm not! but a lot of people are similar to me and whenever I just try to act like myself, people are annoyed. They're just like "No, dont follow what shes doing, you look stupid because you need to be orignial, but you're not...you're just copying her." But I'm not! I'm just trying to be myself but nobody believes me. So now, in order for me to not get on people's nerves, I have to act differently as I would if I was just being ME. I have to pretend the fake me is the true me. Just so people wont come up to me and ask me whats wrong with me. I know this sounds confusing...but hopefully you can understand it? thanks Makeover_xxx
i understand, just keep acting like you. dont pretend to be someone else! who cares if they think that you're coping her... its not like its your job to empress people and act according to how they think you should act! =]

Hey! I love your site and you dish great advice. Maybe you could help me out?
I have a lot of people who I condsider friends. I mean a lot. Everytime I walk in a hallway, a lot of people say Hi to me and that stuff. Let's just say I'm that girl who you look at and say "No wonder she's so happy, her life is perfect!"
Sounds pretty good, right? Maybe. But the truth is, I dont feel like I have any true friends. I envy those people who have a group of friends that they have known forever and they stuck together through a lot of hard times. I don't have that. But I want to. I don't even have a best friend. I feel so alone even though nobody sees it. I need that certain group of friends and I know it will take time to build a certain trust and bond. Please help me out. I don't know what to do. I need a group of friends to stick with and know that  they will be there for me and I will be there for them. Any advice on how to get those friends? pink_oxygen
well, to make best friends you have to spend a lot of fun time with your friends now! go to the movies, do a sport with them, go out to lunch... do whatever all of the time and a special bond will form. a best friend is a friend who you are most with, and with that comes them knowing you more than others and you all having a good and fun time with each other always =]

guys call me ugly and boyish looking. without me asking them or anything. i know i shouldnt listen to them, but seriously, guys arent supposed to call the opposite gender ugly...it's just wrong. it makes me feel reallllly ugly because they consider me a a guy and thats why they can say those things to me...you get what im saying? thanks for listening JuliaDotNet
dont listen to them. they obviously dont care about you so why should you care about what you say! it also doesnt matter how anyone looks and you shouldnt judge people on how they look, it only matters whats on the inside, and the guys are ugly on the inside for saying that to you! =]

 

Well,hi im jennifer. && well i've been going out with my boyfriend for 8 months now && i really love him ALOT. We see eachother everyday & he calls me everyday to talk 4 hours & hours. But,sometimes i see him as my best friend & my boyfriend. Well, the problem is....his ex girlfriend came from Puerto Rico....&& my boyfriend had told my best friend He thinks he still has feelings for her.....&& im scared ....sometime we argue for the smallest things...we both dont like to argue...but we still do...we love eachother alot && we want to stop...but when we do stop...something has to comes up. Sometimes we cry on the phone....(yeah i know *sigh*) My best friend (SUlly) had asked him who was a better girlfriend.....&& at first he didnt answer...but then he said that his EX girlfriend was a better girlfriend.....&& that got me so deppressed...i even cut myself a few times.....why did i do wrong? ....He says he loves me alot. This happend like a few months ago....&& he says he's already over && that he loves me && wants to be with me forever.....but i just dont know what to do....its killing me inside....*crys* please help me ASAP! aww_pixels123
first of all, dont cut yourself or do anything drastic!! you didnt do anything wrong and youre a great girlfriend. i think he was just confused at that time and because she entered his life again, it was like a different situation where he didnt know what to do in. dont worry about it! he is with you, right? you are obviously the one he wants to be with. =]

hay i need some advice..i really like my bf hes sooo hawt as u can see in the dp..but theres these other guys i like too...uhh i cant even begin to choose.. PLEASE HELP...thanks darlin shawnda gosuckadick2006
just take some time and think about it and see who you like the best. dont choose boyfriends on how they look, they are more than a pretty face you know... =]

I have been with my boyfriend for 7months now. And we are very dedicated & truly in love. I mean; we are extremely close. Best friends. Anyway, last night. He left his phone here.. and I wanted to get back at him for going through my cellphone so I went through his. 95% of his outbox was to this girl. And I read them all. He was calling her beautiful and asking her to leave him a voicemail so he could hear her beautiful voice and asking her to sneak out of her house so he could meet her for the first time. Yes, they've never met in person but they text a lot. So I got upset and asked him about it and he said; im sorry. and he was like; that is my personality. and its not going to change. He says he doesnt realize that he is flirting with her. We've argued over several girls because of this as well. And many girls like him because of his 'personality' This has got to be the 4th time something like this has happened. And it really hurts. But I love him so much. And I'd do anything to make him happy. What do you think I should do? He says he wont change..Beautifully Broken. bEESEXY
he's right, he wont change. if you cant handle it and now will not put up with it anymore, its not going to get better. just move on and hopefully you can still be friends =]

hi there's this guy that my friend and i both like.. well this guy is that friend's ex-bf..i never knew they went out until tey broke up. i found out that she really really liked him and cried like crazy when he broke up with her.. but i've been liking him for a madd crazyy tiime too though..we were talking about it the whole time yesterday night.. i told her that or asked her if she could give him to me cus she already had her chance and i've liked him for a longer time and she never told me anything so i think there's nothing she can do about it cus i've come too far..then she said this wasn't about her already have had her chance thing..lol i don't know if that makes sense but anyways..so i told her that she should be able to tell me things cus i'm not a bad friend..cus if she did..and that she liked him..then i could've at least stopped myself from liking the guy..cus really i usually put my friends before me so yeah.. but now it has come too far for me to just stop liking him.. plus i gave up this guy i reallyyyyyy liked just for her a long time ago..because she was my friend and like i said i put my friends before me..but this time i think that i should care about myself too.i can't keep losing people just because of a friend..although they are important..but you know..my life is important too..i can't just keep giving up things instead of trying and gaining.. we had a deal that we shouldn't socialize with him or talk to him in w.e matter .. oh and esp our pastor said we shouldn't like or date church ppl..and we all go to the same church so yeah...but then later on..after 5 minutes..she said that i should go for him and that yeah..but i'm not sure if she's just saying that because i'm her friend or idk.. what should i do? thanks. r8Ever8r

if you like the boy just ask him out. the girl, if i read it right, may feel weird that one of her friends is going out with her ex. your a great friend, just ease her into the transtion that you two might be together. everything will be good with time =]

 

oh and btw..lol..she even told me that he liked me cus last time when i was at someone's house it was like really dark cus the lights were off and we wer elike pillow fighting and like he was gonna kiss me cus he was like literally on top of me [not in that way: i'm only 13! lol] but because i fell then he was holding my wrists to the ground cus i was trying to hit him with the pillow but then he couldn't cus these stupid boys or his friends turned on the light cus they couldn't find us lmao..we were in like the middle of the room though..lol..it might soudn stupid..of course..but i think it's a lil serious.. =[ then the guys were like spazzing out like crazy lmao. i didn't know he was gonna kiss me. my friends told me just yesterday tat he was going to. i asked them how..they said that the guy i like told his friends and yeah.. then his friends were imitating the guy at church of how the guy was acting at the house to me..lol..so yeah... =\ thanks. oh btw if you didn't realize i'm the same person from the top comment right above =] thank yyyouu.r8Ever8r
okay, looks like he likes you too, go for it. but not all aggressive, keep your friend in mind

 

hey. I'm Lezza and I'm 14 years old. my friend has a great wonderful BF (lets call him Clark) . as in he is really great and he totally respects my friend (l;ets call her Tina). Tina is really enjoying her relationship but she feels bad that im left out most of the time when they go out (Tina and I used to hang out almost everyday until she got Clark). She wants to hook me up with a guy who I really like (Tim). I really like Tim and she is doing a great job trying to hook us up and stuff. I'm really excited and stuff, but the truth is I never had a boyfriend before. EVER. So i dont really know how relationships go. I told Tina that I had several boyfriends before (I lied) so I would seem cool. Now I dont know what to do. What do you do in relationships? basically, I need a guide to relationships. I know it sounds really pathetic, but please help me out?unnit_peace
relationships are like friends but closer. dont worry about it, when your with him things come naturally. just have fun! you just hang out, talk on the phone, and go places together... trust me, a guide would just make it boring, just do what you want and enjoy it =]

 

hey! I know my frend already asked you something, but im gonna use her account because I just deleted my xanga. I'm tonya. I'm 14 years old.I really like this guy *Jason* and I dont really talk to him that much and stuff. my friends think im obsessed with him. I'm trying to get over him like im REALLY trying this time. My friends tell me that they are there if I need anything and I think its really great that I have all this support and stuff. I check out other guys and stuff but none of them I seem to like as much as Jason. I tell my friends that Jason is now gone from my life (but thats a lie) Im basically pretending to be obsessed wit another guy (Tanner). I keep thinking that if I lie to myself about liking Tanner, I eventually will like Tanner as much as I like Jason. I told my friend (Kiley) this, but she says its not healthy or good for me to force myself into liking another person. I know what she means, but I just dont feel like I can help it. I dont want to like Jason anymore. It takes too much work. Yet I still do like him and lying to myself seems like the only way I will actually make it. But the truth is that its really coming down hard on me. Forcing what I feel is something I have never done before. and its very hard. my friends think im doing fine and they think im happy but im not. Im kind of confused right now. please help me! i know it sounds really jumbled up and things, but i really need some advice. -Tonya unnit_peace
you know what? i think youre doing what you dont want to do [not like him] you dont have to pretend not to like him, just go with it! talk to him, be his friend! youll have a whole lot less stress and maybe you two can be together? =]

i got a really bad problem...my problem is that last year in december 2005...a girl asked me out...since this was the very first time that anyone asked me out,i didn know wat to do...so i just chose to say no even though i knew that i liked her very very much.Now i want to get back to her hoping she gives me a second chance but i dont know wat to do...plz help me out i would really appreciate it... karlanme
just casually ask her out. say that you werent ready to be with her then but now you are. dont worry about it! just be confident and she probably will say yes! i mean, she was intrested in you! =]

 

ok so a lot os going on right now and im not handling it well, my parents keep trying to change me into something i dont want me to be, and i think they expect to much from me, my boyfriend who im love sooo much is dying and i dont want to loose him, i feel like im not doing any good right now, im letting people down, and like 5 guys like me and i dont know what to do, i dont want to give them the wrong idea but i dont want to make it seem like im saying i dont like them at all cause its not true they're really cool friends just friends and i dont want to go any tell them and feel like a retard you know, thanks for those site hmm well i think thats it....please helpblissfulx3suicide

with your parents, you have to realize that they are trying to change you because they love you and they think it best for you... you cant really change that. i dont really know about the situation with your bf but i bet it is probably really depressing and it would be good to talk those feelings out to someone... just tell the guys nicely and firmly that you dont like them, dont let them think there may be something between you guys... everything will be good in the future just talk it out to someone =]

 

OMG I want true friends. So bad. I mean I have a lot a lot a LOT of "friends" but you know those people in the movies who walk around in packs of three and they have known each other since forever? They look superficial on the outside but they are true friends on the inside? I want that so bad. Having a lot of "friends" isnt bad, really, but to have that special bond with a few people and you know they have your back and you have theirs? Thats even better than having a million "friends". I never ever had that. Ever since first grade since I move around a lot. I try making these "special bond friends" but they stop contacting me or they get mad at me or sometimes we just stop being good friends. What am I doing wrong? Why can't I have those "special bond friends"? I already have two people in mind who I want as those friends but how can I actually get them to be those "special bond friends" with me? They are both friends with me and they are friends with each other, we're just not THAT close to each other. Please help me out?
I'm another person as the one on top ^^^ Please help me. I feel like everybody hates me and I dont know why. I've ALWAYS been nice to people ALWAYS. The only time I'm actually mean to someone is if they're dissing me. If I feel like I've been mean to someone, I actually apologize and I mean it. The thing is, some people still hate me. I have people that like me, for sure, but even then, I dont feel like they REALLY do. I think they just like me because I have nice clothes or because I'm pretty. They dont like me for ME. Once, I thought I had to move to California, since my mom was considering a job there. I told a few of my friends who I thought I was really close to. At leats they treated me that way. When I told them I might move, they just smiled and said "Oh, too bad." Then they left to go to class. I was left there standing and one friend turned back and said "Oh, um, yeah....we'll miss you...and stuff!!!" I was like WTF? Then like a few months later, my friend had the same situation and she told us. She was JUST like me, and they knew her as long as they knew me. When she told us that she was moving, they all hugged her and they wrote banners and hung them on her locker saying we would miss her and they all took pictures and they threw a goodbye party.....EVERYTHING! Why didn't they treat ME the same way? They just blew me off like it was no big deal but for this other girl they threw a goodbye party? Please tell me whats wrong with me?

Posted 4/12/2006 at 12:32 PM by PX_OpenSite
to get best friends you just have to have friends that like you and you like them. then find a interest that you both like and do that together, like sports? and best friends are always together, so go places and hang out together a lot. just be nice to others and have fun with them and the rest should take care of itself... =]

Hey. I know a lot of people have been asking you questions thro this username, but dont worry we are all different people. This username is open to anyone. Sorry, I just needed to say that so you wont be annoyed by this username being used repeatedly. lol. here are the people involed  in my probelm: Mike: My crush who is the total opposite of me. He's a "bad boy" who always gets in trouble.Me: Well, I'm just me. I'm preppy (the opposite of Mike. Mike and I do have some mutual friends, but niether of us are too close to them. These mutual friends are practically aquaintances.) Monica: the girl that told mike I like him. Monica doensnt go to our school anymore, but she did her damage. I hate her now, sorry to say. anyway, here's my prob: I like this guy and his name is Mike. I hung out with him a lot during 9th grade. Then, he finally found out I liked him in 10th grade thro a friend of mine. She gossiped a lot about it one day and I got pretty mad. That very same day my friend (lets call her Monica) gossiped, Mike called me and we had small talk. I was pretty happy and all that. Mike would call me every weekend but wouldn't really talk to me during school hours. I didn't mind it, tho. Finally, we stopped talking for a while, I would email him, but he wouldn't email back. He even gave me his new email address, but we kind of stopped communicating with each other then. Though Mike and I weren't talking anymore, I still liked him and Monica was still gossiping about us. I needed to make her stop so I told her (in my almost excact words) "I don't really like Mike anymore. But promise me you won't tell him." I made her promise to not tell him since I really DID still like mike. Anyway, my plan worked since Monica stopped gossiping about us. Everything was going fine until Monica told me that she told Mike I didn't like him anymore. Then I asked her "how did Mike react?" she told me that mike said he didn't care. I was kind of hurt but by that time Mike and I weren't talking too much anymore. I avoided him a lot since I was embarrased about everything (Monica did some other things that contirbuted to my problem, but I left them out). I kept telling myself I would get over Mike nd I did have some other crushes during the summer, but I still like Mike a LOT. I'm in 11th grade now so its been about a year since I tlaked to Mike. I have no classes with him and he isn't in my circle of firends (complete opposites, remeber). I miss him a lot. He has gotten on the school soccer team and I went to most of his games with my friends. He would look at me a lot and stuff, but we havent really talked, we would only say things like "What time is it?". We cross each other in the hallway and he looks at me like he's expecting something from me, but I havent done anything but look at him back. I'm really confused. What happend to me and mike? I still like him a lot. Do I still have a chance with him? **Sorry this was a long entry. lol -BrigettePX_OpenSite
i think that maybe you have a chance with him, maybe,,, i think he sees you differently since your friend told him all that stuff, i mean he was acting differently ever since then.. you should talk to him and ask him why everything is different from when it used to be? is it her? he will tell you and maybe with communication everything will be better between you two =]

hey there.im cara and im kinda a religious person...this entry has a lot of religious belief stuff in it so if you are bothered by it, you dont have to answer me, im sorry and i understand. A LOT OF STUFF ABOUT "HEAVEN AND HELL Ok, I heard that suicide leads you to hell. I believe its true. Now, i used to kind of cut myself, just to see what the fuss was about, you know? Is cutting yourself a sin? I know i sound really weird right now but i worry about this stuff. even tho some people think its silly. could you tell me or tell me were i could find out the info?   PX_OpenSite

i have no idea if it could get you into hell-im christian- but i know that cutting is bad and you shouldnt do it. never do it again okay?=] its very useless

 

Hey! awsm site! i have a dilemma, think you might be able to help? until lunch today, i was going out w/ a guy, and i really really really liked him, possibly even loved him. one of my "friends" apparently really likes him too. it got to a point where i really couldnt take it anymore, and i just said good bye. i feel horrible. NOW, that "friend" isnt even sure if she likes him. im trying to figure out if i should get back w/ him or not... ahhhh! what do i do? im so confused, hope you can help.SpreadxyourxwingsxandFLY
get back together with him, if you really love him then a friend would not get with him! if she would then she is not a friend anyways... =]

 

Hi, ok I know this guy and we've known eachother for a while. I really like him and he likes me (I think) and we email all the time and he invites me to his baseball games and everything but he can't have a gf till he turns 16. We go to this program together every Wednesday and close to the end we go to this stairwell and make-out. But I don't want to go any further especially since we aren't a couple. How do I tell him? And how do I find out if everything is just physical or what?sweet_nothing09

well, you guys act like bf and gf. try to convince his parents to let him be with you. introduce yourself, become friends with them... then you two could be together for real =]

 

i love your advice...you really help!!!so right now, im in this "regretting" mood...I'm always regretting how i dont play sports, and why im so useless ...UGH!! i hate the feeling!!!! what can i do?!!!!! i just want to be normal and be athletic and have some sort of talent. I seriously have NONE. it sucks so much. What can i do? im too old to do anything... JuliaDotNet

do something you like or always wanted to do. work at it, like it, thats all that matters =]

 

hey. um...i like this preppy/laid back surfer kind of guy. Im preppy/laid back/varied kind of girl. i have a lkot of diverse and clique friends. i always feel like i have to impress this guy. i mean i like him a lot and he never TOLD me that i have to impress him but sometimes i just like impressing people. sometimes it makes me feel like i cant be myself around him but when im with him, everything just flows naturally. i feel really confused. should i stop liking him bc of these feelings? is this even normal? xoLivpants_on

one more question....OK you know those girs who live a preppy lifestyle....as in old money, Nantucket going, country club members? Yeah. Thats me. Or at least thats were I "stand" if u get my drift. Thats the classic prep right. But you know those "abercombie and fitch, showy, gotta be trendy and loll around in our coach, prada, chanel bags people"? thats my image. I want to show people im NOT just that. My family is an old royal family with a crest and all that shmancy stuff. I like being that "fake prep a&F" person sometimes but i dont want people to think im that superficial WANNABE prep....because i know im the classic one. im proud of what my family is. I just want people to see the real me. its kinda hard with the imagei created, but do u think it will be possible? i nneed some help.pants_on
1. guys that you like always will make you act differently, you want him and youll do whatever it is... whenever you feel like you are acting like someone else, then just say to yourself to cut it out, it is not you and you dont have to change to impress someone
2. dont worry about what other people think if youre fake, be proud of who you are and dont listen to others that think otherwise... just show your individual side, and it will show a lot =]

screw it, ill just ask, first of all, i cant' trust people long enough to have a best friend, or like if we get to close, I freak out, and i push them away, what do you think i should do, because i WANT  a best friend?\2nd problem- boys boys boys, man i am just sad, its like i th ink i am a pretty girl, if you see the girl in my icons box, and i think i have a pretty good personality, but none of the boys at my schhool notice me, not any!!! i only get attention from the rude, obnoxius boys, and i hate that!!! I dont' know what to do anymore?BIg_bIaTChhHH
maybe you have a trust problem, did you have something bad that happened to you in the past that changed you to be like this? also boys no matter what you think, dont only go after looks, they look at personality too. just be nice and flirty around them and the right guys will notice... =]

Hey its me again. I'm really sorry for asking soo much. Anyway, I like this guy who is really really hot, nice, smart, outgoing, athletic, and JUST PERFECT!! Lol. But, EVERY SINGLE girl likes him as well. He can get any girl he wants. ANY. How can I single myself out and make him realize I'm different from all those girls?? I want him to notice me!!!unnit_peace

just spend a lot of alone time with him. be his friend, have fun, flirt...ask him too hang out whenevr he can but dont push it and be all over him all the time... tell him that you like him after a while, i wont be surprised if he likes you too... =]

Hey, umm i really need some advice but i have to make it quick...ok, i like this guy but hes dating this girl from my soccer team and he's always telling me stuff and i think its just to make me jealous but when they're around eachother it seems like they don't connect and when shes not around he flirts with me and stuff but on his msn name he always has <3"Tina"<3 (not her real name) so idk what to do cause i think he kinda thinks i like him but i feel like hes just trying to make me mad about tina... ugh idk...help me plzzzSeXi_LiL_LaYs
he's with her, not with you... he likes her, so its not your territory. dont try to be with him. its not right. just ignore his flirting and tell him that your not with him, she is... just let them be together and try ignoring it even though it will be hard.

help ok well frist my name is taylor hi well ok this is my story.......well ok my bust friend's brother mason is the coolset guy ever he is hot so funny and nice and the list can go on and on well see me and hem went out for like 2 days then he told me that he did not wont a girlfriend for a little bit and said it was not my fout and yea well then the next day i foun out that this girl gabby asked hem out and he said yes ok well then they have been going out now for about 3 weeks and i still love mason and he is like not talking to be or anything see me and mason used to be good friends and we wont all wass do stuff together and not like see when i go over to my friends house hs is going to be there see read this this is for his sisters site there is so stuff that is wried okhey u guys .....tonight was awesome i think that was the MOST fun i have had @ a dance.
gabby && mason were soooo cute tonight...gabby is really good @ dancing....lol.
nick && llonna it took about 11/2 hours to dance.....that's nutz...lol.
trevor && i were like the only ones that were trying to get mason&&gabby to dance && nick && llonna to dance....lol.
other than that it was pretty good. i can't wait to go next weekend.
if any of u want to go to a dance there on every saturday 7-11pm $5 to get in... if there isn't any more ppl coming they'll shut it down....... NO NOT MI DANCE!!! so that means we have to start having MORE than 50 ppl @ the dance. well i'm tired so i'm going to bed ..... good night && good morrning.<3 cassie i<3 trevorthat is making me cry every time i read that see i have like 2 other xanga site but this one is the one i talk about mason and ask ppl about things ok well i yea and everytime i see gabby i get really mad i mean what does she have tah i do not? i feel like a peace of crap i am so sad HELP plezla8ter taylorilovemasonilovemason
im so sorry, boys do that to your heart. he does not want to be with you and has made it obvious. its not that shes better than you, its that he doesnt think you are what he wants... try to get with your friends and talk about it and with time all wounds heal. just keep looking and you will find someone thats likes you, trust me. dont beat yourself over this because you can be missing a lot of fun in life =]

Kay, its a weird story. So i've liked this guy since like November, which is crazy.
We started talking more && stuff, and everyone was telling me he probably liked him, he did like me. A couple of my friends even told me he did like me. So at a dance he asked this other girl out [who just isn't my best friend] They've been going out for like 3 monthes, but he treats her like crap, but even though i know that and even though he pisses me off like 07982675086375 times a day I just can't get over him. All my friends think i still like him [which is true] even though i've tried to move on + they say he still likes me. He talks to me like every chance he gets, he'll come and sit by me && stuff, so it kinda seems like it, but then he'll do something awful, [but i can't stay mad].WHat do i do??!duckinluv261
he is with another girl, not with you. although you wanna be with him you cant and dont try to interfere with the relationship. its not your business. try to avoid him because he is annoying you and unknowingly leading you on... try and clear him of your mind and have fun to replace it... =]

mmkay so i pretty much liked this guy for like an entire year (and he goes to a different school) , and i think i may have loved him. but we never went out or anything. and then i basically suddenly *STOPPED* liking him and then all of a sudden i liked this one 8th grader. i thought i stopped liking the first guy, but whenever i see love quotes i think of him. but with this 8th grader im always trying to see him in the hallways and stuff. idk but im really confused. =| thanks<3MEllY_l0VES_Y0U -
you have two people you have crushes on... its perfectly normal but you shouldnt try to be with both of them. think who can you not live without, if you know then you will know who you want to persue a relationship with... dont worry, crushes come and go but love lasts... =]

Okay, so, I'm sorry if my grammar is bad, I can't think very straight because I'm sick. :S So there's this girl named Leah.
She used to be one of my best friends. We've known each other for two years, just about.
And then, this other girl, named Alex, moves in. She's pretty, and she acts all hardcore.
But she's not, because I'd known her before she moved back in. [You see, she used to live here and then moved away, then moved back.]
So anyway, this girl, Alex, is pretty nice to me on the bus, which is the only time we see each other.  And so, naturally, I'm nice back. I don't talk about her, and I'm not mean to her.
Well, back to Leah.
A few weeks ago, I'd invited two of my other best friends over to my house. And that was because they'd invited me to the mall before, and I couldn't go. So this was just to pay them back.
Leah had never invited me anywhere, by the way.
And so Leah goes ballistic! She says that I never invite her anywhere, that I'm leaving her out. She says that I lied, and that I said something about not being able to go outside and crap.
And usually, I never invite anyone anywhere. That was one of the few times I'd invited anyone anywhere, and that was because I felt bad for not going to the mall with them.
So Leah's been mad at me for a while now.
And this other girl, Erica, who used to be one of Leah and my friend, gets in a fight with Leah, because Leah started talking about me. She also said that Alex, the new girl, called me a "fake", and that I'm trying to be "emo". [I just laughed at that, by the way, because Alex is dumb.]
So just as I'm getting over losing one of my best friends, I go to this other girl's myspace. Apparently, she'd mentioned my name to Leah, and Leah said that someone [she never mentioned the name, but I have a feeling it was Alex.] said that I called her a bitch.
Which I didn't.
Talking about people is just.. elststiselhts. D:
Please comment me back.argh_helpme
tell leah that you didnt do anything wrong and she just blew everything out of proportion. she is trying to get back at you for some reason and making other people be in this fight, not cool... well anyways, shes not a good friend from what you said and you should say away from her. alex doesnt really seem like she is going behind your back and seems to be i the middle of all this, but id watch her if i was you... this situation will be over soon because its really silly and leah is being unreasonable... =]

Hey! I kind of like this guy named Tim like I think hes super hot. We have History class together and we sit next to each other in that class and we are both in the Student government. He's REALLY outgoing, but he acts really awkward---ish towards me. I don't know why! I don't know him that well and i would really like to, its just he doesn't seem like he wants to talk to me. I guess you can say he acts really shy towards me. Whats wrong with me?? I mean what....am I really that bad?? Ugh. All we say to each other is "going to Student Gov. today?" "Yeah, you" "um yeah." **Amazing, huh?** haha NOT. Sometimes he gets my binder, like he did today and sometimes he just asks me for a pencil or a homework question BUT THATS ALL!! How can I get him to open up? AND WHY IS HE ACTING TO AWKWARD?? Does he HATE me ALREADY??? Ugh......please help!  delectable_doll
i dont think he hates you, i think he has a crush on you and doesnt want to make you think of him in a bad way so he is confused on how to act... guys get shy or act different ways around you when they like you. just try to start a conversation about something that he likes to talk about and itll come out easier for him. then he will feel its easier to talk to you in conversations because you two had such a good time before... i wish best of luck for you together =]
Also, Tim is the hottest guy in 9th grade. I really liek him and its just I odnt know if he even wants to talk to me. He sometimes turns his back towards me but if i ever tap his shoulder or just "um, Tim could you move over?" he would do it so its not like hes totally ignoring me but still help!!!
just get to be his friend. start hanging out with his friend and get things in common with him. further the conversation from "can you move over" to add a question to start some talking. trust me, its not hopeless, just put some effort into it! =]
hey remember Tim? Yeah Um I told 10 friends/out of like 200 people in our grade that I like him. I trust them enough. Did I make a mistake?
no way! if you like someone you shouldnt be scared to hide it or be embarrassed by it! =]

i have a pretty stupid problem but...
i played lacrosse for the first time today in pe... and guess what?
i like it. a lot! and i could catch pretty well and cradle it too.
any ideas how i can start to learn how to play?! like a camp or something? haha i mean im 15 already...is that kind of late?
problem is...
i already registered for soccer camp this summer and i dont know what to do!! haha cuz my mom says she isnt gonna let me go to two camps...JuliaDotNet
well decide what you want to do more if there is a camp for lacross too. if there isnt one, then after soccer camp you can play soccor and lacross! you can play two sports at once right? have fun =]

 

i like this boy name alex he's my best buddy and stuff... my problem is that he is acting weird around me lately because ever since after winter break it's like he is trying to avoid me, whenver he's with his friends he keeps looking at me for no reason, and gets all quiet around me whenever we talk, but not when he's with some other people and girls.. the weird thing is that i was walking with my friend rebekah after school and got off the bus we were just like going to my mom's friend's house to talk to her daughter (who is about 7 or 8 years old) about her game boy advance game... well, after we talked to her mom about it... alex's best friend name gabe started saying "oh look alex it's marielle" and stuff and his other best friend shane said " hey marielle alex wants to talk to you" alex on the other hand started turning red like he is about to get mad, wrestling them, gabe and shane was pushing him down.. the next day i told gabe what was going on yesterday??? he said " we were only joking around", but i'm still confused because of that, my friends think that he likes me, my other friends thinks that he is shy around me (when i said i like him, when i gave him that note), and some people think that he just wants to ask me out... one thing is that he thinks i'm a stalker, too because i'm always at his bus stop for no reason at all, there is a reason either my mom's friend's house to drop off something and hanging out with my friends on fridays... what's going on with him???  -marielle p.s. i'm a really shy person talk to him it's really hard for me and even though i have his phone number i'm still too scared to talk to him and call him i can't do that no more like used to now... is there any other way i can do something about it???aSiAn_L0VER45
aw, he likes you! you both like each other and he's shy because that's how boys gets around girls they like. just call him and ask to hang out somewhere, i bet you he'll say yes!  just get all your nerves and you will not regret it afterwards =]

 

i could take some advice.[its pretty classic.]okay. so theres this boy. lolwell, he kinda likes me, ik this for a fact and i, am of course, crazy about him. and well idk i sorta asked him out. and things were weird b/c neither of us have really been in many relationships. and so things were weird. and now i dont even thing were going out. we barley talk. and he usually goes and walks with his friends. at commons, our "recess" he's never in the same place as i am so i dont talk to him. he sits by his friends at lunch and i sit by mine. ive asked my friends for advice and they dont know. one of my friends said to give him a hug. and idk that would be akward. and another friend said to drop him and go for something better. but the thing is, idk why i like him. im crazy about this boy and i have no idea why. he has that "x" factor. and idk what to do.please instant message me,im not up-to-date with my xanga.my AIM name is:GEEKYx3or you can also IM my other sn:TRAiNRAN  MEOVERorrrr,you can email me at:christiep@wi.rr.comso thankyouu.Christie.Christiee_Mc_Crispyy
you both like each other, so there's nothing stopping you two from a realtionship. even though you two havent been in a relationship, this is a great time to have your first one! whenever you can talk to him, get the confidence and do it! he's just shy because he likes you, he is probably waiting for you to make the first move. just do it and you will not regret it =]

Hi!! my name is ashleigh nd i really need your help!!OK, so I really REALLY like this boy. He's rides my bus, has 6th period with me, and we have a LOT in common. Like, he's on the school basketball team and so am i!! Anyway, even tho we prollly spend a lot of time together, I dont talk to him too much since im kind of shy. Whenever he's around me, he acts shy too. How do I get to know him better if he acts so different around me?? -AshleighhhH!! PX_OpenSite
if he acts shy too, then he likes you! just talk to him like you would talk to a friend, maybe about baseball or something funny in class. dont worry, it might be awkward but he wont care, he will like that your talking to him and soon you two will be comfortable talking to each other! =]

Hi. You don't know me but I saw you on a blog. I need some advice about being with someone in the Air Force. Take a look at my journal entry if you would like to help. I appreciate it. ineedsomeadviceplz
i read your site. if you both love each other, get engaged! he will come back and if its true love then you will get married and live happily ever after! =]

 

hi its me again. Here's my situation this time:
theres this guy who I have a few of common interests with him and I kind of like him, I think hes cute. Thing is, I don't know him that well and I would like to. He rides my bus but I never sit with him I sit with my friends. He's also in chorus like me. We also have french lit. Together. I really like him but I know that FRIENDSHIP is the BEST foundation. I really want to be good friends with him...I just dont know how to start talking to him...i guess? Any tips or stuff? pants_on

how did you get your other friends? ask yourself this. go talk to him, be nice to him, have fun with him... then blah blah blah, ask him out!

 

ok hey its me again (haha sorry). A lot of people at my school think my best friend is a lesbian. I knw she isnt tho. Anyway, since they think shes a lesbian, Im worried they think im one too!! OMG please advice_land, help! I dont want people to think im gay especially when im not!!pants_on
they have no proof you are one. dont assume that they think you are if you dont know for sure. dont give them anything to doubt like joking around if you dont want them to think that. just correct them if they say you or she is. they are just ignorant... theyll learn that its not right to lie about other people. =]

 

Pr00b: well ok my bf for allmost 3 months was being rude to me one day and got really fedd up (i started =] the day before just to let you know) and on the way home from our last track meet he gets out my tampons and pads in front of every one and  showed them off....i wassoooo embarrsing i was crying aafter words and sooo pissed I didnt talk to him for ever that day and i still am having problems with him and to top it off i keep hearin he is flirting with his EX (they went out for like 2 days so ya idk) so i really need some advice what to do my mom istrying to help b.c Andrew (the guy) has gone threw alot w. me so idk if i should just move on or what please help asap[Heyy-Lee*]Bk_TennisObsession
you should talk to him seriously about your relationship. he is being very immature and it was unfair of him to embarrass you. he is going over the line by flirting with his ex too. ask him why he is acting different. try to work it out, it'll all be good in the end =]

hey. there r these twins who r sophomores @ my school (im a freshman) and they r really cute. They look at me a lot but they never talk to me cuz i dont know them. i really wanna date either one of them but im too shy to talk to them. i'm really confused bc they both look at me all the time and im pretty sure they like me but this has been going on for over a month now and they havent even talked to me. i'm really confused as to whether they like me or not. What do you think?mbl99
um, well first step talk to them! flirt with them a little. figure out which one you wanna date [you can only pick 1!] then ask the person out. they may like you... =]

 

hey ok here's the problem:
I'm really shy and I'm really REALLY conscious about what people think of me. Maybe I'm TOO conscious, which I know isn't good, but the truth is that I cant help it. I'm really shy around people sometimes especially my crush and my crushes friends. I really want to be more outgoing but how do I do it without seeming weird? Like usually I'm just like "oh hey" but I want to be comfortable around more people. Comfortable enough to make and hold a conversation. any advice for me?-Nickie PX_OpenSite
first of all, don't think you will be weird if you act outgoing! no one is wanting to judge you, and confidence and being outgoing is not bad at all! just trust that you are not going to be made out to be a fool and just try to be confident. it will feel great! then when you find people will accept you conversation will ocme naturally and you will be very comfortable around them. step up to it and be confident in yourself =]

i want to be apart of my x boyfriends life again? we both lived in the same town and moved, that's why we broke up because we thought we wouldn't see each other again. we live about 2 towns away now, but we don't hang out or talk. it's been about a few months now that i've seened him,but i miss talking to him and just being with him. its not that i want to be his girlfriend. he was just one the best things that happen to me, and i want to be apart of his life even if it is as a friend...what should i do?shards_0f_me
get in contact with him again, i think he lives close enough. become reaquainted. get to be friends. then if it's right ask him to be with you again. there is no gaurantee he will say yes, but it's a rish you have to take if you truely miss him. he could've also changed... you never know until you talk to him =]

Hey my name is Cassie I'm 16 Alright well My Problem isn't so much of a problem at all I'm just scared and it is quite hard for me to make my own decesion.... So I need some help with this alright well I'm in love and have been in love with the same guy 4.... 2 years almost we've had issues and lots of break-ups and making up and I thought we had finally called it quits but we still love eachother and we are willing to try things again I'm just scared of being hurt and I'm sure he may be as well he says i need therepy and i just laughed at that cause I know that he needs it as well...  but I have to make alot of changes for him and let go of some 1 as well and I know this some 1 will never talk to me again if I do this..... I'm unsure of myself at this time..Wearurheartonursleeve08
if you and him truely need therapy, get it. it will help you in the long run... also, because you are in love of course you will do anything for him. but you have to ask yourself, is the negatives bigger than the positives in our realtionship? if you said yes, rethink your relationship, it might not be good for you now... whatever you decide, i hope you get past the tough times and look toward the good! =]

hey ok i have another prob>I have a ton of friends but (ok i kno this sounds rlly weird) but i barely talk to them about anything. they try to avoid me and stuff. whats wrong???pants_on
maybe, you have nothing to talk about? think of topics beforehand. if you can't think of anything invite them somewhere like the movies so you have something to talk about later. then you will have no problem from there! =]

 

Hey. LOVE this site. Ok, so my problem is this: the guy I like was in my class last year and the year before that... now we're in high school and the same people arent in the same classes... and hes not in ANY of mine. I hardly get a chance to talk to him.. and when i do i chicken out cause im soooo shy. and he's also shy. i thought i wanted him to know but without him knowing that i know... but when i had someone tell him he said he already knew. So now im even more nervous about talking to him because i dont want to annoy him but other people say they think he likes me. i dont want to just give up on him... i've kind of always had a crush on him and now that im getting older.. the crush is getting stronger. what do i do???PrettyBaby_x3
i know you're shy, but go up to him! it just takes a second of confidence and it'll all be worth it! if you like him enough go talk to him and flirt. he probably likes you too so that should make you less nervous, because those who like you won't try to make you feel uncomfortable. get together with him, hang out, get his phone number. it'll all come easily after you start talking again =]

wow. you must be really great to have all these people ask you advice and stuff, so i decided ill ask you: I have a crush on this totally perfect guy and he used to sit next to me in math class (the teacher will switched our seats last monday). Any way, I helped him a lot in math class and we talked a little, not too much but whenever he did talk to me, we would often smile and laugh and things, it was kinda fun. whenever he asked me questions, they were really obvious questions like "what time is it?" even if the classroom clock was RIGHT in front of us. and he would even look at the clock but he would still ask me. (wtf). Now that our seats have changed, i dont get to talk to him as often, but he does sit near my friend Jessica. Maybe I should "wander" over there and talk to a group of people and hopefully he'll join in? do u think i should or does my crush not like at all?VogueLove_x
yes! that's perfect! include conversations with him when you're there! i think he may have a little crush on you but it's hard to tell. you have to talk to him more. become more of his friend. flirt a little, don't be shy! then, make your move!

 

okay im straight edge and my friends absolutly positivly hate straight edge people.....(they don't know im sXe) how do i tell them?----(---@http://www.straightedge.com/whatissxe.html^that is for if you don't know what straight edge itsXe___xxx

first of all, it is excellent that you do not do drugs or drink. it is very bad for you and you made a smart decision. but i have a question, why do they hate stright edge people? do they smoke and stuff? you should tell them the positives about it. don't just randomly say that you are, just in convo's say something to the effect of the good of being sXe. then after they are comfortable with people like that, just tell them you are. if they are truely your friends then they will accept you for who you are. =]

 

hey there. ok heres my problem bc im too dumb to think up a solution:
i'm so ungrateful!!! wtf is wrong with me?? i dont have a million dollars and my parents may not earn $190,000,000 a second, but i do live in a well off neighborhood, i may not have very good friends, but im no loser. my parents may be divroced, but i like it that way. i may not have a Lacoste polo in every color of the rainbow, i dont even have ONE lacoste polo, but i do shop at acceptional stores with enough money to spare. Why am i so ungrateful?? so many other people out there have almost nothing and here i am wanting everything. why must i compare myself to others who have more? why am i such a brat??its_your_land

it is the society we live in to try to be better than everyone else and be self centered and ungreatful. nothing is wrong with you, it is common. although common it is not the right thing. whenever you are self centered too much then try thinking of others. try being involved with community projects, donate to the poor, maybe get a job? those who have more do not mean they are better, we are all the same. material possessions are nothing, emotional secureness and relationships are everything. =] oh and thanks for using its_your_land.

 

hey ok one question-I live in a neighborhood that is pretty ($pricey$) if u get my drift. My mom is a respected lawyer and my grandfather was famous at one point in his life. So you get that my life is pretty....great. Only, I dont live in a house, i live in an condo. But whatever. Anyway, in my most wonderful pricey neighborhood, people have...housecleaners...most of them are of my Race (like cultural and ethnicity). Whenever i tell people my race, they're like "oh, my housecleaner's from there, too!! Do you know her?? Her name's ______" and of course I dont. Anyway, I dont want anyone to think of me as a housecleaner's daughter!!! because im a lawyer's daughter!! I know this problem sounds exretemly shallow and all but its really bothering me. Please don't think of me as a shallow b!tch. PLease dont let this create the wrong impression. -Sofia its_your_land
just correct people. they are just ignorant. ask them if they know someone from their race. they'll get the picture. don't overreact though, just let it slide off your shoulders =]

Ugghghhhghghghhghh everyone at my new school thinks im a whore!! How can I prove them totally wrong??its_your_land

the most you can do is not act like one (not saying you do!) you can't make people think a certain way, you can just show them you're not. =]

 

hey! my name is cameron and im an 8th grad girl. im pretty average, not really one of the popular girls, but i am friends with a few of them and im not friends with too many guys, either. I also look pretty average, i think. I mean, a lot of my friends tell me im pretty but i dont know. and most of the guys that have crushes on me are kind of weird. and im not such a good flirt and im kind of shy sometimes---NOT all the time, like sometimes im really loud and hyper and what not.
anyway, being in 8th grade, i will be in Highschool next year. I kind of want a change in myself to happen.
1) *i know this sounds soo cliche* but i kinda want to be one of the girls that when people say "You know Cami?" "Oh yeah, that popular girl?" Butim not. In my reality right now its "You know Cami?" "Uh...no? She go to our school?" or "you know cami?" "Oh the girl who's friends with name of friend here." I really want to change that. How, though?
2) I wnat to get more guy friends, but like I said, im kind of shy around them how do i get over my shyness and make guy friends??
3)I want to be more outgoing, but i have NO idea how???
4)Any highschool tips/advice?? if ur in highschool.?
I know those 4 problems are so cliche, but im really scared to go to highschool. please help! -Cami its_your_land
1. you don't have to be popular! it will not make you happier in any way. it's not the number of friends, but how good your friends really are... if you're still not conviced, then join a sport or something. you can make lots of friends that way. just be yourself.
2. just spur of enough confidence to just go up to them and say hi. from then on it'll be easier to talk to them.
3. just contribute to conversations, don't focus on negatives, they can hold you back, be happy.
4. yes, im in high school. just have as much fun as you can and don't get so worked up over it. you can never plan for it, just take it as it comes. take chances, you might regret it if you don't. also don't get into bad crowds and habits because they will ruin your life. =] have fun in highschool, and good luck!

 

so since i moved into a new school, i dont know my new friends too well...
but i still want to invite them to my bday party...(with no friends from my old school, im gonna have another party)
should i invite ppl i dont know too well?
plus i have a few ppl im not sure if i should invite:
1)Mary>> i talk to her sometimes in the hall...very brief, but in the beginning of the year, she was really nice to me, and whenever we actually get to see each other its always funny...and i hear she gets upset REALLY easily, so i'll feel bad if i dont invite her
2)martha and sara <<< they are sisters..im only close to martha, but i feel bad if i dont invite sara, cuz she's nice too and they live in the same house!
3)this girl i just met!she is AWESOME! but im not close to her...i just started talking to her like 2 weeks ago!! i want to invite her, but is it weird to invite someone that i just met? (although, like everyone i've met this year are new, but she's the most recent...)
please help! THANKS!!! i love your advice!!

also...
number 1...i dont want to invite her because well she's kinda moody...it's just everytime I see her, she's nice and happy...but when i see her, and she doesnt see me, she's pretty down and stuff, so like im not as close to her as to the others...like i dont think i can continue on being her friend later on because she's pretty secretive
#2 i only want to invite one of the sisters, but i'll feel bad if i dont invite the other...
#3, i think she'll be a great friend! but it's just that i just met her...and i dunno...
sorry i sound annoyingJuliaDotNet
invite them all! they all have been nice to you so far, they will make good friends. don't focus on negatives of someone if you don't know them, they may not be all what they appear to be. also if you don't wanna invite someone don't, you don't have to invite the other sister if you're not as much of a friend to her. whoever you pick, have lots of fun at your party, and happy b-day! =]

 

hey my name is Carolle. Im in 9th grade and everything im mentioning in this paragraph, i have been doing since the 8th grade and i plan on doing it until i graduate Highschool.im in Lacrosse. I also take Theatre/Drama classes @ school and i volunteer in a daycare often. In a few years, i plan on being a foreign exchange student for a year. On top of that, I act in a theatre program outside of school. I also get pretty good grades in Advance Placement classes.I know college is VERY competative and im scared. basically, the info on top is my "resume" or something. Do you think i will EVER get in a good college? i'll only do those activities until I graduate highschool. i rlly want to get in a good university like Harvard or Yale. Will I ever make it?? im rlly worried bc a lot of people have been doing those activities (listed on top) for their whole life!-Carolleits_your_land
well, you get good grades in high classes, play a sport, volunteer, forgein exchange stud., theatre... my bet is you'll get into a university. don't worry, i don't know many people that are doing as much as you are. don't stress out too much.=]

This might be a little long..So me and my boyfriend Patrick have been together for 6 months (Started in December 2nd). On February, I caught him cheating but he never told me about it, and I never told him that I knew he cheated. So I kept it a secret til this day. The reason why I kept it a secret was because I loved him dearly and I didn't want to lose him, plus I didn't want to know what would happen if I told him. And each night when I think about it, I end up crying, and whenever I say "That's it, I'm telling him tonight" I cant! I'm so nervous, What should I do.FANTASTiKAL_QU0TESx
just ask him hypothetical questions about cheating. if he doesn't tell you what happened in february, then tell him what you saw. cheating is very bad for someone to do, and it is very likely it will/ or did happen again. don't feel horrible, if it is wrecking your life i suggest you get out of the realationship until he proves he's sorry and will never do it again. and if he lies about it, then it is probably not right for you to stay with someone like that... i hope you make the best decision for yourself, just aim to be happy =]

me again,my mom travels a lot (bc of her job) and when she does, she stays for about a week in the foreign country. I miss her a lot and i have to stay with my dad who im not as close to as my mom. how can i deal since my mom travels often?pants_on
just cherise the time you have with your mom. before or after she goes away on a trip, plan something fun that you two could do, like going to an amusment park. write often to her if you can. also call everyday to talk. when she's not there, find something to occupy your time. find a new hobby or hang out with friends more. try filling her void until she comes back. you could also try doing fun things with your dad too and get closer to him like you are with your mom. =]

Oh and i need help too lol:Ok. Well even tho i have an Advice site, i still need help! Ok, me and this girl, ill call her Momo, well me and "momo" were best friends for... 5 years. AT the begingin of thsi school year we got into a fight [long story], so since we got into a fight well, we hate eachother, so her and her friends came and t-pied && egged my house! My parents keep saying there gonna get ehr back, btu never do. Now when i say "when r we getting her back?" They say, "No, its over..." What can i do to get her back?HeyYou_Advice
getting back at someone doesn't help anything. she was obviously angry at your fight, and thought she would "win" by egging your house. my advice, don't get worked up over it. if something like that happens again, get her in trouble but if not, thenstay out of it. no need to start another fight, and drama if it's not needed. =]

hey its me again, thanks so much for your last advice but i need ur help again :(.
i want to get a summer job but i have NO expierience at all in babysitting or anything like that. i cant walk dogs bc im rlly not a dog person and i cnt get a mall job bc im too young here. what can i do??? please help!!! thnks
PS-ur its_your_LAND SITE IS BLOCKED BC I THINK SUM1 CHANGED THE PASSWORD. I TRIED LOGGING IN BUT IT WUD NOT WORK.

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if you want to become a babysitter, then there are classes aroung by the red cross, i got my baby sitting licence thing with a couple hour class.if not, then ask around people that you know if they know of any jobs that you could do. ask any of your friends if they have jobs and where. you can do manual jobs like mowing lawns and stuff, also. =]... oh and i'll get right on the its_your_land thing...

 

okay, i know that you gave me advice awhile ago, but i have something to say. you'll probably just delete this, but i need to get this out there. your advice did give me second thoughts about meeting this guy, but i did it anyway, and wow, were you wrong! he turned out to be the sweetest guy i've ever met in my life! and i just want to tell everyone that asked for advice not to let it change your decisions. if i would've, i never would've met my boyfriend. this person doesn't know you personally, and can only give you general advice. don't let it change your life, make your own decisions. get your friends advice. they know you a heck of alot better than this advice site does!so_many_tears_2_hide
you're right. just listen to your heart and friends. they know you better. i'm just here for guidance for i what would do. i'm just human, not always right. =]

 

Problem: I hate my parents sometimes. omfg. i have the best boyfriend in the entire world, and my mom hates him. and everytime i see him; i have to wait more than two months to see him again; because we go to different schools. its horrible. they wont let me even go to a movie with my bff and her bf too. its terrible! i dont know what to do, there isnt anything else to do except sneak out. its really hard. also, my bf, we have an extremely intesnse relationship, like no one can ever love eachother like we do, type thing. and we cant see each other which is really hard on both of us. we cant take it anymore. plus my bf, hes not all that romantic, and i need him to be more when i see him, it doenst seem like he knows what i want even though i've told him. its hard for me to go on without any freedom from my parents.comment me back with it thanks.x0h.taylorx00_Fades
you should talk it out with your parents. let them see your perspective. find out why they won't let you see your bf. prove to them that your responsible somehow, maybe they think you're not responsible enough to get a bf? the only way to find out is talk...=]

hey, my problem is i really want to be with my boyfriend this summer but i dont know because i also want to have fun. i know he really cares about me and i love him but i am not sure about it. so yeah. and the other thing is i love him so much i think i take what he says to personally. or well what he doesnt say.HollisterChicaAS
so, what you're saying is you are not sure if you love him as much as he loves you, and what he says bothers you sometimes? well, figure out what you want. spending time with your bf or taking a break from him. maybe this relationship isn't for you. you may not love him as much as you bring yourself to think... just spend some time ruling out negatives and positives in your relationship.

hey um i need some help-see my best friend is moving next year and im gonna feel so alone. i have a lot of friends but im not that close to them and im really really confused im gonna miss her so much but i know she has to move. what do i do??PX_OpenSite
you can persue a long distance relationship with her. write to her, call her, visit her whenever you can. try that, and it will only wear away if you let it. just try to get more friends, move on if you want the closeness of a bestfriend closer to home. this will all work out over time for the best. =]

 

I need advice. There's this boy at my school, who is a huge flirt. He says he's liked me all year, but we haven't done anything about it yet. Then we drifted some apart, and we're kind of starting over now. I can tell he really does like me, and we practically act like we're dating. But before we started over, he said he didn't want a relationship because of the drama it would cause. I felt like that was stupid. Just an easier way of saying "I just don't want to be with you." I like him so much it's insane. I pretty much have all year too. But I don't know what to do. The school year's almost ending, so I wont see him a whole lot over the summer. So I'm wondering if I should just let it be and enjoy our time together for now, or do something about it?Thanks audgeree
if you really like him, then persue trying to get a relationship with him! he likes you, and you like him. just try to get together now. make plans with him for the movies or lunch or something. now would be the best time, in the summer, because you have a lot of free time to do stuff. good luck =]

hey. i feel rlly bad rite now. this guy asked to switch out of my class bc he thinks i dont like him. he gets annoying a lot and sometimes i do tell him that hes annoying and stuff but he stresses me out a lot. i just feel really bad that i MADE him switch out my CLASS!! helP!pants_on
did he tell you that he is switching classes because of you? if yes, then i suggest you say that you didn't mean to hurt his feelings, but sometimes he gets on your nerves. ask him to stay because you didn't want him to get of your class because of a little annoyance. if he didn't tell you he is getting out of your class because of you, then don't assume that. just ask him why he is doing that. it may be for some other reason. =]

hey! ok...here my other prob:i like these two GREAT, WONDERFUL guys. But i dont know who to chose for the prom 1)He is the opposite of me but he is so nice, down to earth,  hot, and he tells me a lot and ive known him for a while but im kind of skeptical about him since we had a "past" if u get me. 2) He is smart, outgoing, nice, and hot. i dont know him as well as 1 but i want to get to know him. With this guy, i get a fresh start.
Who to chose??PX_OpenSite
they can both have really good qualities, but the best choice is the one that you like the best. this i can't choose for you, you have to decide yourself. who do you like hanging out with more and you would want to hang out more with? that person is the one you should be going to prom with. =]

It's me again. And the situation's getting worse.Normally when I see him, we're really close. We'll hug, and flirt, and blah. You know. But today when I first saw him, I was practically expecting him to attack me, like always, but he just jokingly ran into me, but didn't even say a word. Then in the next two classes, he started flirting with his ex-girlfriend A LOT. He wasn't even LOOKING at me. And I'm the shy type, so I didn't feel like I could just go join their convorsation. So later in the second class he sat with me and flirted a little, yeah. But then all day, we hardly even talked.The last class we sit next to eachother in the back, so of course we're ALWAYS talking. But today it wasn't much. I told him how my friend told me he was talking about how he likes me a lot but doesn't know if I like him. And I told him that was really stupid of him to think that I didn't like him. But he's just like "Yeah..."And it's the weekend. And the last day of school. Which is when we always have a big goodbye and hug and stuff. But he didn't even SAY goodbye to me. It's really upsetting because every day I start to like him more and more. And when he does this, it starts to hurt MORE AND MORE.What should I do?THANKS <3audgeree
ask him why he has been acting so differently, in a non-thretening way. you'll find out. but i think it's because things with you maybe are getting uncomfortable for him or something... =]

hey its me again, the girl that asked u aboutthose two guys and who to go to prom with. ok i like hanging out with them both. i like both guys equally. i dont know which guy to chose. thanksPX_OpenSite
if it was me i would go with #2. change is always good and i would want something far from ordinary, like my past bf, for my prom. whoever you choose, i think they are both great choices from what you said. =]

hmm.. kay well the guy i like is gonna be in highschool next year, and im only gonna be in 8th grade. and he's going to a completely different highschool than im gonna go to. what should i do?MEllY_l0VES_Y0U
if you like him, ask him out. love knows no age. if he doesn't really talk to you then become his friend first, just ask him something randomly and start a conversation. he won't reject you if your his friend first and you both like each other. =]

so im going to meet with my old friends from my old school. so one of them is really sensitive and she gets mad easily. so right now, she's pretty mad at me for having fun at school for once, since im new there. i dont know what to say toher to make her not feel bad and to say that i have to actually like my new friends...i mean does she really want me to feel sad at my new school? so yeah...what should i say when i see her? i mean she's gonna bring it up, like "eww you're enjoying your new school without us..." and stuff like that. please help!
i just want to say something short and well happy? just so the conversation's gonna stop like that. then we'll get on with the reunion...
ii want to say something like i miss them a lot and that all my friends are equal to each other...?? thanks!Mmm_Pie
say i miss you guys so much! even though i like school over there, i liked it here too. same goes for friends. say don't take offence that i have friends there. they will never replace you guys. then reunite and catch up on old times. just say it nicely... =]

hey. me again. ok my close friend, Kimberly, is very competative WITH ME. I mean, everything i do, she tries to top it and whenever i say something about me or happened to me, or what I do, she compares herself to me and she will always try to come out as the better one. Its really getting my nerves and I dont know what to do!! pants_on
if she says something negative about you, like "you always go to that store, but you really should go to this one because i go there and trust me, it's better" say something like"oh, so you think that my taste in clothes is bad?" she'll get the picture. just ignore it and don't point out to her that she's trying to be better than you, she'll get defensive.

ok so i moved recently and the friends im making are very nice and i like them very much! 'xept that sometimes they make comments (they intend to) that make me feel "poor" and embarrased.
-once, my friend and i were watching my super sweet sixteen and she was saying how that the girl on there was considered rich in her town, but where we live its considered low and how one tiffany necklace is looked down upon here. it made me feel embarrased cuz i dont have any? i know i shouldnt and plus my friend is REALLY NICE like seriously she gets along with anyone. i dont think she meant saying that towards me but you know...she meant it generally.
-every single friend's house i've been to have been overly rich. and they call themselves poor. i cant take it!
-my friend owns a bmw she doesnt even drive yet! she may even start to own her own restaurant...i know
-everyone has a yearbook that cost $75 !!!!! i had to make my own!! ahhaah with sheets of paper. yeah it felt really embarrasing
im not jealous at all. it's just that it makes me embarrassed cuz everyone just talks so normally about the stuff they have and i dunno...
is there any way to forget about this?!! thanks so much!!!SunnyDays_dot_com
stop comparing yourself to others, it won't do anything but hurt you. the point is you can't be anyone else, like how rich someone is, just be happy and proud you are who you are. riches are nothing and don't make you happier. just have confidence like you think you would have with the money you crave. if you must compare your riches with others, look at the world's poor who would do anything to have what you have. just hang out with people who don't showoff their money and you won't feel the jealousy of not having that. =]

i need some advice...
you see, im very  self-concious. I also cant seem to get a guy. Anytime i've ever liked a guy, ive always tried to make them notice me...but not in a bad way, you know? And it sucks because my best friend is very pretty and always has guys IMing her and calling her because they like her and want to hang out, meanwhile i can barely get a decent guy to even talk to me (other than regular guy friends). I often feel that im too fat or too ugly and unfortunately it seems like everyone always judges me. Luckily, i have friends that cheer me up and all that, however im still stuck alone and guy-less. I dont want one just to say i have one, or just because all my friends have/had one, i just want a guy who will like me for who i am and who i can like for who they are. all i meet are stuck up jerks. what can i do?
sorry if thats confusing..i think i confused myself somewhere within that. hahaiXwontXforgetXyou
stop looking for guys. don't just get one to get one. if you find one you like then persue a conversation with him and ask him out. the kind of guy you are attracting by desperatation is not one you will want. if you don't try to impress you will find one who will like you for you!don't compare yourself to your friend, you are not her andhaving a lot of guys that like you doesn't make you better than anyone else. stay confident and he'll come around. =]

hi, i need advice. i was always self concious since the last guy i had liked had never felt the same way, but i finally got over him & noticed this new guy, paulie. i think he is gorgeous, and we sit next to eachother in history. My best friend nicole, who also used to like him but doesn't anymore, sits on the other side of me in history. Jenna also sits near us, she's another one of my friends.He & I talked all the time, and he could always make me smile. Nicole and Jenna told me all the time he flirted with me like crazy and probably liked me. I denied it because I didn't think he would ever, but it made me so happy. One day recently in History, my friend Nicole and him were flirting a lot, & being the jealous person I am, I got very jealous, especially since she knew just as much as I did how much i liked him. When he tried talking to me once, I would shut him out without knowing I did. He didn't try to talk to me for the rest of the class, and I got upset and moved my seat. Later on when I was online, Nicole told me he thought I was being a bitch in class. I realized I was rude and apologized to him online. He only replied with 'k' and not answering my question. I got really upset and said ' i guess you are? bye.' and he said 'bye.' I didn't expect to accept my apology, but I didn't expect him to be so immature!We didn't talk for the next few classes, and then at the formal, our end of the year dance, he danced with this girl Mel the whole time, to every song, slow or fast. Eveyrtime he looked at me, he would just look away, like I was invisible almost. It made me so upset, but I couldn't say anything to Mel. She had no idea I liked him but, I he did at one point until Nicole sweared! to him I didn't.  Seeing him with her hurt me so bad, and I felt like I was the one who should be guilty.I don't know if he ever liked me, but it doesn't seem like it anymore because of the way he was dancing with Mel, and ignoring me. How should I know if he likes Mel If I don't talk to him? Or how should I know if he ever even liked me? I dont' want to sound concerned about him because he doesn't even talk to me anymore .. I'm just so upset and confused, I wish i wasn't jealous in the first place..fromtheheart_quotesx
you apologized, but it's time to show you're sorry. go up to him and start talking again. the friendship will come back slowly. explain you felt not yourself that day and it was a bad day and you don't want it to affect your friendship.he probably likes mel so now you can only be friends, but if they split or you can live without him, ask him out. it will be worth it if you feel it's right. just because someone flirts with someone doesn't mean they want to be with them, flirting is just flirting. =]

I'm having a party and my two friends are coming. But, apparently, recently, they've begun fighting. and i dont know what to do! do you think the party can keep on going? please help!
i know this problem sounds typical but i need help!!! thanks!JuliaDotNet
find out if they really are fighting, or it's just a little disagreement. if it's nothing, then invite them both and they'll resolve it. otherwise try to help them get over their fight before the fight. i think they will resolve it if you gelp. otherwise you have to say both of them can't come because you are not choosing which friend stays because they are equal and it will be awkward both of them being there.

alright my problem is pretty gay..but its reaallllly bothering me.well, my best friend, lets just call her [ leah ] but thats not really her namee. so anyway, leah is the guy magnet. she is gorgeous, has the curvy look going on which the guys love about her, and shes pretty smart. shes got money too. so..theres this boy that leah reallllly likes. he is one year older than her, but they went out over 10 timess! (the boy dumped leah most of the time) & they are pretty much in love. they almost did it before. when going out with another person, they cheated. opps! but they swore it wasnt on purpose well anyway, me? im sooo happy for my best friend. but sometimes it really hurts to see her always talking about him. i think im decent looking, and my friends do too, yet i have never had a boyfriend. sure ive been asked out a couple times, but never anything. leah & my other friend katie have tried several times to get me a boyfriend but it never works! i just want a boyfriend i can love..you know? im ready for it. and i know you will probably say you dont need a man to complete you or whatever...but i seriuosly want this. i tried to talk to leah but she says when im ready the right boy will come - that just seems like never. i really dont want to grow up & be single at 40 either..lol. im 14 & i havent even gottten my first kiss! so i really want what leah has..and it just seems like i will never get it. what should i do about this? i reallllly like a lot of guys & stuff but i really dont want to go to high school next year without any experience..just the perfect boy. a broken heart. whatever it takes..i want to try. what should i do? i feel as if i will never get a boy. but why?thanksss<3PRETTYSCRiBBLES__XO
find a guy you have a connection with. maybe you won't get a guy you can call a bf for some time but if you keep looking he will come. be yourself and a guy who likes you will sweep you off you feet. join activities and make friends. your bf can come from a new group of friends.

Well, my boyfriend and I have been going out since June 7th and I call him and whenever I do he always says he will call me back after like 2 seconds of even talking to him+he doesn't even call back!!! then i ask him to come over sometimes and he always tells me he can't even though he lives pretty close to me! What can I do to bring us closer as a couple??PeAnUtBuTtAjElLaTiMe
maybe he needs some space. he can't be with you all the time, you know. maybe it's not. just talk to him and see why he is doing this.

question: okay there's this kid that my friend has liked since freshman year and recently we've been "talking". i called my friend up and told her about us and she said she didn't care but i still think she does. i don't understand why she does because like she doesn't try to do anything with him. she doesn't call or make plans. he had no idea that she liked him until the other day and he doesnt like her "like that". some people are telling me to go for it but others tell me not to im really confused. should i go out with him or not?qu0tez_n_tHingz
if she said she doesn't care, i don't see why you shouldn't go for it. talk to her again and tell her that you are going to persue a relationship with him.

So it's my first time playing soccer this year and I joined a one week camp.
I am SOOOOOOOOOOo scared of meeting the new people there...Im going to another state!!!! plus they probably ALL know each other!!!! How should I go up and talk to them and like where do I sit for lunch?!!! it's a 12 hour camp!!!
plus, I am a beginner!!!! I have no idea what to do!!!! i Just REALLY want to play soccer, but I suck!!! i know going to the camp can help, but it's more advanced...
since they're all from another state, they might think im weird since i dont talk like them, or have their accent!
please help!!!JuliaDotNet
just take a deep breath and think for the best; getting new friends and having fun. then when you're there be confident and take risks. go up to some people you think are nice, and start talking to them. you'll have friends in no time. no one is there to judge how good you are at soccer, just focus on the game and have fun and you'll be a great player! have tons of fun. =]

 

hey.. uhmm if you could help me out i would be soo grateful! okay.. so i really like this kid name joey.. and kinda went out (since i wasn't allowed to date) durin the summer of entering 8th grade.. but then when we went to school.. i was kinda embarrased by him since he wasn't like the hottest guy in our class.. but since then we both like each other but he's like afraid of commitment & relationships but so am i. but its not jus for me it just in general he does. i asked him like a month ago if he likes me and he said he does but he also likes someone else.. he doesn't know if he likes me more or this other girl.. he says he wants to have a relationship with me wheter it be friends or in a romantic way.. what do i do?.. i don't think i could jus be friends but if i have to i will. && i'm not afraid to be seen with him.. i love him soo much and couldn't care what anyone else thinks.. i screwed up before by lettin my friend tellin me that hes ugly and everything.. i jus want us to be together && idk what to do..
if you want to im me.. to understand more.. my sn is hotlildevil890.
thank you soo much!!!
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before it wasn't the right time to go out because you didn't want to be seen together. now may be a better time to get together. but since he likes another girl supposedly, then he might not want to be with you. ask him out and if he says yes to being your bf then you'll know the other girl is not a problem because he has you now. otherwise, just give him time to get over her or let him persue a relaship with her and just be his friend. =]

 

I feel 100% retarded for even bothering with this but hey!  Whatever I'll give it a shot.  So, there's this one guy, his name is Mark.  And, he goes to my school and he's just a yr older than I [he's a junior and I a sophomore].  He's got a girlfriend who goes to a school close to ours.  I started talking to him more this past May or April, somewhere around there.  I'd go to where his locker is[luckily I had an excuse to go up there everyday] so I could see if he was going to stay after and we could talk or if he was even there.  Well, I got looking forward more and more to everyday that he stayed after so I could just talk to him.  One day, I was with my friend Audrey, who has had bad experiences with him [and also my friend Hannah has too].  Audrey and Hannah both say he will wind up screwing with me.  I know that they don't want me to get hurt or anything and I totally respect that.  But, he's awesome, funny, and knows how to make somebody like him =(    [good and bad].  He walked me home one day and then got distracted and wound up staying here for 2 hours...while I should have been doing something productive I said 'screw it' and just messed around.  Nothing big however....just laying on my couch and him playing with my hands....like holding them and what not.  I know a lot of my friend have boyfriends/girlfriends, and my Mom even does.  So I basically can never escape that feeling of wanting one too.  Now, Mark and I made a deal with eachother that we wouldn't tell anybody the whole fling thar day.  Then on the last day of school this year I heard Mark had dumped his girlfriend to go out with me...however this wound up being false.  The last day, and the day our fling happened was 1 week apart.  In that time, some of the SURROUNDING schools had heard what happened and strated up rumors like we went all the way and like he tried I said No and he left my house completley pissed.  None of these being even close to true.  I REALLY REALLY REALLY liked Mark.  Maybe, even border line loved.  I know this because I have NEVER felt like this ever before.  Now, I know I'm in highschool now and everybody goes through the phase of nobody likes me wah wah wah.  But, here I think it's true.  I really thought I don't know, he was something worth keeping.  But now, I just want to be done with him.  Not because he did anything, just because I can't stop thinking about him.  And I know he most likely won't ever do anything.  Unfortunately for me, he's the one that gets me down in the lowest, but raises me up the highest.  I want to be done with him so I can move on with my life and get somebody that likes me.  But, there's one problem, I'm EXTREMELY impatient.  I don't know what exactly can be said to this.  But maybe, you can help because you don't know either of us.  I don't know.  I think right now, anything would be helpful.=/desperationhasnoheart
i think based on what you said you may be good for each other. but, are you going to be okay with rumors and your friends telling you this relationship is not for you? because i think because it happened because of the fling, it will happen more if you guys are bf-gf. ask him out and see what happens from there. take a risk, it may be worth it. afterall, you both seem to like each other. =]

hmm... well its hard for me to talk about this but i have to get this off of  my chest... wen i was younger i had such a good self concept of myself i was even vain at times... but now that i got older and everyone around me started dating i realized that i was the only one not... adn i started to think maybe its because i'm a bitch.. or i'm really ugly and i'm a loser and noone will ever like me. adn i'm not skinny enough and it's really taking a bad toll on me... i can't even look at guys anymore without thinking i'm not good enough and it makes me sad to the point that i havent' eaten in a while.. it makes meeeee soooooooo sad.. i think i need helpits_open_land

not everyone is dating even though you think they are. dating someone doesn't mean you are prettier or better than someone who is not. if you want to date someone just ask out someone who you like and they most likely will say yes if they are available. i think you have depression, seek professional help please. once you get it, you will be happy and confident enough to ask out guys and be satified with yourself again and realize you don't need a random guy to complete you. =]

hey, i just made this new xanga so its more private =Pbut i need advice.. i have liked this guy for a long time now, & we're best friends and stuff.. we hang out & talk alot, & everything's going great.. but when i tell my friends about us hanging out or something, they think it's a big deal & act like OMG about it.. i guess i used to be like that too but now it's normal to me & it's not really a big deal anymore.. i'm just not sure what i think about him now, sometimes i think maybe i've gotten over him all this time & just kind of have 'loved our friendship' or something.. but i have no idea =/ can you help?? =) thankss =Dshh___x
don't question your feelings so much. if you like him you like him, if you don't you don't. as long as your happy with where you are with him, your feelings are content and that's all that matters. i personally think that you like him as only a friend, but on the flip-side, good relationship form from good friends.=]